Photographer | Brealyn Nenes Photography
Hey friends and happy new year! The amazing thing about a new year is that it brings fresh starts and new beginnings and opportunities to assess what is going right in your life and areas where there might be some need for more attention. A huge part of life are the relationships we are in, whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, this blog is for you because we’re looking at all things that come with goal setting for this fresh year we have ahead of us! Let this be a time for growth with your significant other, so let’s get into it, shall we?!
GOAL SETTING TIPS
-DON’T COMPARE: Let’s talk comparison, also known as the thief of joy! This can be a hard one, especially in a world of social media where we know what’s going on with the other by the touch of a button. Comparison breeds insecurity, the “should” statements, and leaves one another feeling depleted, only hindering your relationship. Focus your efforts into fostering your relationship rather than looking at the one next to you.
-COMMUNICATE WITH ONE ANOTHER: We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again, communication is key! When setting goals, be honest with the other about areas where you are satisfied and filled up and the areas where you’re frustrated and empty.
-REALITY OVER PERFECTION: Striving for perfection or the ideal of a given situation is nice, although not always realistic! Having the pressure of perfection in a relationship as the end goal can cause feelings of discouragement as this realistically isn’t attainable as it breeds unfair expectations. When creating your goals as a couple, have ideas in mind how you can push one another with expectations that can be met!
-TALK PRACTICAL DETAILS: A major component to goal setting is talking about practical details! When two people are involved, it takes coordination when communicating about when these goals will start to be worked on, if or who is keeping you guys as a couple accountable, and setting aside time to reflect on what is working and isn’t working!
-BE ADAPTABLE: Goal setting comes with the best of intentions and is amazing when they are attained, although sometimes plans change, so don’t be afraid to modify and adapt with one another if unforeseen things arise!
SOME IDEAS FOR YOU!
We aren’t just going to leave you hanging, so we’ve got some ideas for you to make this look like your best year yet when it comes to setting goals for your relationship!
-Find a hobby with one another!
-Go screen free and devote 20 to 30 minutes to talk with one another about things that may be going on!
-Learn each other’s love language and find the best ways you can love, support, and serve one another!
-Read a book and talk about what you learned!
-Plan date nights every other week, trade off who’s night it is to plan!
-Book a trip!
Photographer | Delight in the Desert
Remember this a new year for you and your significant other and goals are symbolic of areas where you both want to grow together in. Embrace this challenge and lead one another toward bringing out the best in each other!
